Leave transgenders alone, give it a rest ::…

Too few role models:  SOURCE

A question was posted on QUORA and I felt compelled to respond:


Why don’t transgender people use the restrooms corresponding to their genitals to try and end the needless transgender bathroom controversy?


It is none of our business.


This reminds me of things we have to struggle with growing up::…. what IS our identity? What IS our moral standard? Should others have THE right to determine what is best for US?


Almost ALL of us in the age of inBETWEENers (born 1960 to 1965, neither Baby Boomers, Generation X, nor Millennials) must REMEMBER what the biggest questions of our day were? If others forgot, I can share with you: Do you or don’t you circumcise your newborn son?



SOURCE:  “Boys” by William E. Rochfort 



Remember that? I do. Is it necessary or more to do with mental well being our our son: likeness to daddy. It was something I read avidly read about because sometimes reading becomes “PEACE of MIND”. In this instance, we were RESPONSIBLE for making decisions for our children.


However, this topic should be a NONtopic because it is simply none of our business. If it is not us, nor our child, we don’t belong. I, for uniquely one, could not imagine the struggle this mere question asks ~ it is SO very judgMENTAL on so many fronts. Nor is it a practical questions. Why? Girls bathrooms in elementary school have stalls. Even at swimming pools and gym lockers: there are closed stalls.


If we don’t make a BIG deal out of this question, then the persons it affects are free to chose the best way that puts them at PEACE. To imagine what it is like to be DIFFERENT when the word itself claims: “Freak”! That is so far from the truth and requires each of us to delve deep inside our humanity humanitarianism by avoiding an opinion on what is personal and none of our business.



SOURCE:  Follow Will Rochfort on Twitter 







The worst thing you can do is underscore the misconception that there is something wrong with a transgender. Especially when each one of us have our own skeletons we hide.

SOURCE



On the practical, logical side. If a boy that identifies as a girl, looks and acts like a girl, feels more comfortable with girls, rather than boys, goes into a girls washroom, they can simply go into the bathroom stall. To say that everyone bares down to the birthday suits multiple times a day, more likely a month, or more….. there are girls that are shy and will go into the bathroom stall to change into swimsuit or gym clothes. Which one is different than the next, is for each individual to decide, not anyone else’s claim to identification.



SOURCE: Matheus Pinto



There is a solution. Certainly a priority would be to STOP talking, covering, writing, posting, chatting, murmuring about this topic as though there is something wrong with a transgender person. I repeat:  a person.  It wasn’t for them to decide who they are nor is it mine, or ours, to judge.


This viewpoint was in answer to a question posted on QUORA.com ::.. an escape to learn about what matters or what people are talking about.  Originally, I used as a sales blogging tool, now it stimulates interest on topics that one may not have the opportunity to discuss, rationally, online.  It is monitored, it avoids abuse of any kind.  It is healthy.  Good mental health.  A setting that allows you to take a stand on your viewpoint or nudge others to your point of view.  


Best of all:  a safe place to investigate your own perspective, on your own time.

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Leave transgenders alone, give it a rest ::…

Too few role models:  SOURCE

A question was posted on QUORA and I felt compelled to respond:


Why don’t transgender people use the restrooms corresponding to their genitals to try and end the needless transgender bathroom controversy?


It is none of our business.


This reminds me of things we have to struggle with growing up::…. what IS our identity? What IS our moral standard? Should others have THE right to determine what is best for US?


Almost ALL of us in the age of inBETWEENers (born 1960 to 1965, neither Baby Boomers, Generation X, nor Millennials) must REMEMBER what the biggest questions of our day were? If others forgot, I can share with you: Do you or don’t you circumcise your newborn son?



SOURCE:  “Boys” by William E. Rochfort 



Remember that? I do. Is it necessary or more to do with mental well being our our son: likeness to daddy. It was something I read avidly read about because sometimes reading becomes “PEACE of MIND”. In this instance, we were RESPONSIBLE for making decisions for our children.


However, this topic should be a NONtopic because it is simply none of our business. If it is not us, nor our child, we don’t belong. I, for uniquely one, could not imagine the struggle this mere question asks ~ it is SO very judgMENTAL on so many fronts. Nor is it a practical questions. Why? Girls bathrooms in elementary school have stalls. Even at swimming pools and gym lockers: there are closed stalls.


If we don’t make a BIG deal out of this question, then the persons it affects are free to chose the best way that puts them at PEACE. To imagine what it is like to be DIFFERENT when the word itself claims: “Freak”! That is so far from the truth and requires each of us to delve deep inside our humanity humanitarianism by avoiding an opinion on what is personal and none of our business.



SOURCE:  Follow Will Rochfort on Twitter 







The worst thing you can do is underscore the misconception that there is something wrong with a transgender. Especially when each one of us have our own skeletons we hide.

SOURCE



On the practical, logical side. If a boy that identifies as a girl, looks and acts like a girl, feels more comfortable with girls, rather than boys, goes into a girls washroom, they can simply go into the bathroom stall. To say that everyone bares down to the birthday suits multiple times a day, more likely a month, or more….. there are girls that are shy and will go into the bathroom stall to change into swimsuit or gym clothes. Which one is different than the next, is for each individual to decide, not anyone else’s claim to identification.



SOURCE: Matheus Pinto



There is a solution. Certainly a priority would be to STOP talking, covering, writing, posting, chatting, murmuring about this topic as though there is something wrong with a transgender person. I repeat:  a person.  It wasn’t for them to decide who they are nor is it mine, or ours, to judge.


This viewpoint was in answer to a question posted on QUORA.com ::.. an escape to learn about what matters or what people are talking about.  Originally, I used as a sales blogging tool, now it stimulates interest on topics that one may not have the opportunity to discuss, rationally, online.  It is monitored, it avoids abuse of any kind.  It is healthy.  Good mental health.  A setting that allows you to take a stand on your viewpoint or nudge others to your point of view.  


Best of all:  a safe place to investigate your own perspective, on your own time.

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Images inspire creativity and soul purpose



It occurred to me tonight, as we spring forward, that there are so many images and quotes that can inspire me.  Likely anyone for that matter.

Whether you be an insomniac like I can be so many times, or an early riser in other parts, one can enjoy peaceful solitude or united solidarity with talented people of the world, from around the world.

It should be impossible to feel lonely in this brave new world, where just about anything we do, is centered on a computer or television screens.  Our jobs, our entertainment, our creativity, our memories.

Like so many others, life is in control.  It sometimes leaves gaps on the online world when you become enveloped with warmth from real life events, family, friends.  



More often, you are in survival mode in the outside world:  juggling jobs, finances, commitments, obligations, taxes, crises, pushing dreams and goals to the bottom of the pressure broil of keeping things together, whether mentally exhausted or morale challenged.

So what do you do?  To find a release to avoid the pressure explode with stress, health ailments, energy depletion …. what can help?

Creativity can be an escape. 
Like exercise is optimum for ongoing health invigoration,  so can creativity be a great way to exorcise those demons pressing down on you from real commitments.  



Take a stroll through the universe …. online.  For images that appeal to your senses, make you smile, make you in awe.  Look for quotes that speak to you personally, that can inspire you to move on from just barely getting by to where you belong.

Your sole purpose in life makes your soul sing.  Finding images to escape to and enjoy can go a step further when merged with stimulating verses or quotes.  Be moved to create your own.  That can be creative.  That can be a release.

Be at peace every day.  Be satisfied with what you have.  Don’t try to reach too far into the future so that you have lost the gift of enjoyment of today. 









It is in you to be enveloped in a positive enjoyable world.  To discover what it is will guide you to what others find similarly mirrored philosophy and talent unfolds, makes connection.

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Images inspire creativity and soul purpose



It occurred to me tonight, as we spring forward, that there are so many images and quotes that can inspire me.  Likely anyone for that matter.

Whether you be an insomniac like I can be so many times, or an early riser in other parts, one can enjoy peaceful solitude or united solidarity with talented people of the world, from around the world.

It should be impossible to feel lonely in this brave new world, where just about anything we do, is centered on a computer or television screens.  Our jobs, our entertainment, our creativity, our memories.

Like so many others, life is in control.  It sometimes leaves gaps on the online world when you become enveloped with warmth from real life events, family, friends.  



More often, you are in survival mode in the outside world:  juggling jobs, finances, commitments, obligations, taxes, crises, pushing dreams and goals to the bottom of the pressure broil of keeping things together, whether mentally exhausted or morale challenged.

So what do you do?  To find a release to avoid the pressure explode with stress, health ailments, energy depletion …. what can help?

Creativity can be an escape. 
Like exercise is optimum for ongoing health invigoration,  so can creativity be a great way to exorcise those demons pressing down on you from real commitments.  



Take a stroll through the universe …. online.  For images that appeal to your senses, make you smile, make you in awe.  Look for quotes that speak to you personally, that can inspire you to move on from just barely getting by to where you belong.

Your sole purpose in life makes your soul sing.  Finding images to escape to and enjoy can go a step further when merged with stimulating verses or quotes.  Be moved to create your own.  That can be creative.  That can be a release.

Be at peace every day.  Be satisfied with what you have.  Don’t try to reach too far into the future so that you have lost the gift of enjoyment of today. 









It is in you to be enveloped in a positive enjoyable world.  To discover what it is will guide you to what others find similarly mirrored philosophy and talent unfolds, makes connection.

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FATHERS: teach your sons

There is a way to a woman’s heart.

It comes without malice, power or disrespect.  A woman can complete you, make you satisfied with life.  If you degrade her, you are degrading yourself.

We are not objects of desire.

We are beautiful creations to be cherished, protected and honored.   How you treat us tells others how you treat the world.

We are not sexual playthings.

We make your greatest fantasy come true.  In a wonderful way.  The mother of your children, the love of your life.  The vessel which bears children, your legacy to the universe.  A celebration of family.

We support and nurture.

Those whom we love.  If you make us feel important, we will shine in your embrace.  We give without disgrace.

Your treatment defines you.

How patient, kind and loving are you?  Do we know how you feel?  No need to hide behind manhood but humanity.

We are not accumulation of wealth.

You don’t need to adorn us as testimony to your vigor.  We glitter without diamonds because loving us makes us sparkle.

Leave your wrath behind you.

There is no room for it in love.  Envy and retaliation are ego driven emotions.  They don’t belong with us.

We are your cheerleaders.

You don’t need to see us as anything but class.  Our elegance and intellect are celebrated.  Our art and skills are glorious.  Full of wonder or acclaim.  Your love is enough to satisfy any destiny of fame.

Love us unconditionally.

Cherish us for who we are.  We don’t belong in brag books or used as testimony to our fame.  The love that exudes from the union, whispers from the hilltop.  It isn’t a holler or screaming from pain.

Show the respect we deserve.

Your manhood will be intact.  You will gain brilliance from the way you refrain from abuse, destructive character.  Acceptance your middle name.

Prestige and stature

Come from the quality of position you exude.  The fight for the middle man and the down trodden is your attitude.

Peace and romance

Is from your generous heart.  A protector of compassion speaks from your sensitivity.  It does not lessen your manhood.  It makes you more a man.

 

 

The cause before the effect


Ever hear of cause’n’effect before?

It is a theory.  Don’t ask me how or by whom, the great idea expounded to everyone’s great, deep, understanding ::….. either spiritually or mathematically, that for every action their is a reaction.  Get it?  I’m trying to get the great stuff outta here, which drown out the bad stuff.  My dad would always ask us:  “what’s the pay off?”  I don’t know where that came from, really.  Was it just amazing vision and understanding to determine that is the defining question by which all persons should be able to answer when struggling with a decision:  “what’s the pay off”.  Kind of like what someone else say:  “what’s the worst that can happen? Now, tell me what is the best that could happen?

They say that you should blog at least 5 days a week if you want to make any tremors in the stratosphere.  I’m hard pressed to sit down and write.



No shortage of ideas.  Sometimes I think I need a funnel and sieve to drain all the ideas billowing out.  Each area I examine where my interests are.  I haven’t decided yet, what is the apple of my eye.  Yet.  I’m honing in on some fascinating self-discovery.
Take a look at yourself inside.  I mean deep, deep inside.  And, answer these questions to yourself, privately, so that only you can hear, yet spoken aloud.  


What are your answers for:


* Regardless of religion, would you end up at the Pearly Gaits or hanging in between, floating …. 


* Have you ever killed anything or anyone?


* Have you ever betrayed your mother or treated her unjust?


*Do you think you are selfish?


*How are you selfless?

In a quick reaction, answer the most instinctively honest that you can.

a) i am jealous of someone else?

b) i am mad at somebody else?

c) i have regrets about somebody else?

d) i know i could have tried harder but?  what? ___________is your excuse?

e) i don’t treat my body as though it were a vessel for health and longevity?

f) i spend money recklessly?

g) i hate my job, boss, husband, wife, brother, sister, Mother, Father?

           (You’re hopeless if you said child! Give up already!)

h) i am mean to other people, kids, animals, bugs, nature, or the environment?

i) i disregard authority.  i have committed a crime.   i have stolen or lied?

j) i say one thing, and then do the opposite?

k) i don’t cherish, be faithful, protect my wife? protect my husband’s heart?

l) i don’t do more than my share, i complain about others, i make up excuses?

m) my, me, myself, mine are the only thing i care about?

n) i live with fear, abandonment, hurt, violence from someone else?

o) i care about others long before myself, i am gullible, i am too ___________

           (tall, short, fat, skinny, old, young, shy, bad, unworthy, unhygienic)?

p) people have given up on me? people don’t care about me? people have abandoned me?

q) i question authority?  i question the “cause” before i start on the “effect”?

Who’s got it made?

Notable inbetweeners are successful due to the boundless energy and commitment to doing what they love.  You can find all the secrets in the world by just following the advice of so many who say:

  • Love what you do, be passionate about it

  • Expect failure, it is a great motivator to want to leave it behind except the knowledge earned

  • They care less about what others think than what they are thinking about

  • They are not always the biggest house hold names

  • They are committed to seeing it through

  • They are tenacious, work hard, take criticism less because they know what they want to do

The ones I want to highlight were born between 1960 and 1065.  They fell into being an Inbetweener by birth, by accident, my karma, by fate … whatever you want to call it.  Here are some of them that you may already know:

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JoanneJoRowling, OBE FRSL[2] (/ˈrlɪŋ/; born 31 July 1965),[1] pen names J. K. Rowling and Robert Galbraith, is a British novelist best known as the author of the Harry Potter fantasy series. The books have gained worldwide attention, won multiple awards, and sold more than 400 million copies.[3] They have become the best-selling book series in history[4]and been the basis for a series of films which is the second highest-grossing film series in history.[5] Rowling had overall approval on the scripts[6] and maintained creative control by serving as a producer on the final instalment.[7]

Born in Yate, Gloucestershire, Rowling was working as a researcher and bilingual secretary for Amnesty Internationalwhen she conceived the idea for the Harry Potter series while on a delayed train from Manchester to London in 1990.[8]The seven-year period that followed saw the death of her mother, birth of her first child, divorce from her first husband and relative poverty until Rowling finished the first novel in the series, Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone, in 1997. There were six sequels, the last, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, in 2007. Since then, Rowling has written four books for adult readers, The Casual Vacancy (2012) and—under the pseudonym Robert Galbraith—the crime fiction novels The Cuckoo’s Calling (2013), The Silkworm (2014) and Career of Evil (2015).[9]

Rowling has lived a “rags to riches” life story, in which she progressed from living on state benefits to multi-millionaire status within five years. She is the United Kingdom’s best-selling living author, with sales in excess of £238m.[10] The 2008Sunday Times Rich List estimated Rowling‘s fortune at £560 million, ranking her as the twelfth richest woman in the United Kingdom.[11] Forbes ranked Rowling as the 48th most powerful celebrity of 2007,[12] and Time magazine named her as a runner-up for its 2007 Person of the Year, noting the social, moral, and political inspiration she has given her fans.[13] In October 2010, Rowling was named the “Most Influential Woman in Britain” by leading magazine editors.[14] She has supported charities including Comic Relief, One Parent Families, Multiple Sclerosis Society of Great Britain and Lumos(formerly the Children’s High Level Group), and in politics supports the Labour Party and Better Together.

Rowling has said that her teenage years were unhappy.[21] Her home life was complicated by her mother’s illness and a strained relationship with her father, with whom she is not on speaking terms.[21] Rowling later said that she based the character of Hermione Granger on herself when she was eleven.[37] Steve Eddy, who taught Rowling English when she first arrived, remembers her as “not exceptional” but “one of a group of girls who were bright, and quite good at English”.[21] Sean Harris, her best friend in the Upper Sixth, owned a turquoise Ford Anglia which she says inspired a flying version that appeared in Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets.[38] At this time, she listened to the Smiths and the Clash.[39] Rowling took A-levels in English, French and German, achieving two As and a B[27] and was Head Girl.[21]

In 1982, Rowling took the entrance exams for Oxford University but was not accepted[21] and read for a BA in French and Classics at the University of Exeter.[40] Martin Sorrell, a French professor at Exeter, remembers “a quietly competent student, with a denim jacket and dark hair, who, in academic terms, gave the appearance of doing what was necessary”.[21] Rowling recalls doing little work, preferring to listen to the Smiths and read Dickens and Tolkien.[21] After a year of study in Paris,Rowling graduated from Exeter in 1986[21] and moved to London to work as a researcher and bilingual secretary for Amnesty International.[41] In 1988, Rowling wrote a short essay about her time studying Classics entitled “What was the Name of that Nymph Again? or Greek and Roman Studies Recalled”; it was published by the University of Exeter’s journal Pegasus.[42]

An advert in The Guardian[27] led Rowling to move to Porto in Portugal to teach English as a foreign language.[8][36] She taught at night, and began writing in the day while listening to Tchaikovsky‘s Violin Concerto.[21] After 18 months in Porto, she met Portuguese television journalist Jorge Arantes in a bar, and found they shared an interest in Jane Austen.[27] They married on 16 October 1992 and their child, Jessica Isabel Rowling Arantes (named after Jessica Mitford), was born on 27 July 1993 in Portugal.[27] Rowling had previously suffered a miscarriage.[27] The couple separated on 17 November 1993.[27][46] Biographers have suggested that Rowlingsuffered domestic abuse during her marriage, although the full extent is unknown.[27][47] In December 1993, Rowling and her then-infant daughter moved to be near Rowling‘s sister in Edinburgh, Scotland,[26] with three chapters of what would become Harry Potter in her suitcase.[21]

Seven years after graduating from university, Rowling saw herself as a failure.[48] Her marriage had failed, and she was jobless with a dependent child, but she described her failure as liberating and allowing her to focus on writing.[48] During this period Rowling was diagnosed with clinical depression and contemplated suicide.[49] Her illness inspired the characters known as Dementors, soul-sucking creatures introduced in the third book.[50] Rowling signed up for welfare benefits, describing her economic status as being “poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless.”[21][48]

Rowling was left in despair after her estranged husband arrived in Scotland, seeking both her and her daughter.[27] She obtained an order of restraint and Arantes returned to Portugal, with Rowling filing for divorce in August 1994.[27] She began a teacher training course in August 1995 at the Moray House School of Education, atEdinburgh University,[51] after completing her first novel while living on state benefits.[52] She wrote in many cafés, especially Nicolson’s Café (owned by her brother-in-law, Roger Moore),[53][54] and the Elephant House;[55] wherever she could get Jessica to fall asleep.[26][56] In a 2001 BBC interview, Rowling denied the rumour that she wrote in local cafés to escape from her unheated flat, pointing out that it had heating. One of the reasons she wrote in cafés was that taking her baby out for a walk was the best way to make her fall asleep.

  • James J. Collins (born 1965), US bioengineer, pioneered synthetic biology and systems biology

Massimo Pigliucci (born 1964), Italian-US plant ecological and evolutionary geneticist. Winner of the Dobzhansky Prize